I think you're in danger of being trapped by a very antiquated view of women's role in a marriage. You just went under a big change. Take a breath. Give yourself and your family a break. Ask. your husband what kind of househusband he thinks he is since he could have easily picked. up a roll of toilet paper on the way home. There are vibrant, loving ways for a couple and their children to share a life. Free yourselves. up.